Your wedding day is fabled to be one of the happiest days of your life, if not the happiest, yet the idea of standing at the altar is stressing you out. If you’re worried about what you’re going to say, believe me when I say you aren’t alone.
Writing heartfelt and beautiful vows isn’t an easy feat, nor is it one that most people take lightly. So, how do you make sure that your “I do”s come with vows to remember? Fortunately, it’s not as tricky as it sounds.
Here are 4 simple tips for writing your own wedding vows…
1. Tell a Story
Give your significant other a glimpse of the incredible life you will have together by reminiscing on a happy moment the two of you have shared in the past. This can be a moment you’ll never forget, a funny mistake, or even a story about a hardship the two of you pushed through together. Not only will this be entertaining for your friends and family to hear, it also is a great way to reflect on your relationship and the highs and lows the two of you went through to get to this special moment.
2. Make Promises
This doesn’t have to be anything grand to be meaningful. Along with promising to be by their side through thick and thin, promise to be a shoulder to cry on when their favorite team loses or a good listener if they want to practice their jokes before the party. Personalize it to their loves and fears (if they’re afraid of bugs, you can promise to take care of those) to show off just how much you get them. You are the perfect fit to all of their quirks; promise them that.
3. Don’t Try to Include Everything
No matter the length of the list of things you want your soon-to-be-spouse to know on your special days, try to keep things brief. For this, short and sweet is the way to go, especially for your family’s sake. Don’t worry, you have the rest of your life to tell your other everything that you love about them, they don’t all have to be said at the altar.
4. Be True
The most important thing to remember about writing your vows, though, is that it isn’t the end of the conversation. As crucial as it may seem to say just the right things on such a special shared moment, this isn’t the only chance you will have to show or tell your significant other just how much you love them. Your vows aren’t the only time you are going to tell your other how much they mean to you, it’s likely you’ve already exchanged similar sentiments during the proposal, on an anniversary, or simply in a meaningful conversation.
What you say at the altar isn’t going to make or break your relationship, so don’t stress yourself out too much about it. Just be honest, don’t dwell on what you think other people are expecting you to say, and speak from the heart. Keep it simple.
This is all about you and your soon-to-be-spouse, don’t let the rules of a little writing assignment get in the way of your special day!